Ok, maybe that's a bit harsh for this situation, but frankly the fat and stupid parts were really at the core of how I had been feeling lately. Since my wedding last June, my focus, or lack there of, has lead to some frustrating results: weight gain, poorly written dissertation, and work anxiety, among other things. I just let myself spiral and it wasn't pretty.
That's why the month of March was one of New Directions (Glee reference intended). I've re-arranged (accapella pun intended!) my priorities (in life and with the dissertation in general). I decided that making the graduation deadline this year was not worth sacrificing a well-written dissertation.
So, after some deep conversations with my supportive hubby, mom, and best girls, I've decided to make some very important shifts of focus. Instead of worrying about things that I cannot control, I am focusing on three and only three things - my husband, my dissertation and my health. These priorities seem obvious and frankly, now they are and I'm disappointed that I didn't see how much my priorities had shifted over the last 6 months until it was staring me in the face. I thought I was focusing really well... but as it turned out I was focusing on at least 10 different things. That's at least 7 too many. So, I narrowed it down to 3 - Hubby, Heath and Dissertation. All the other stuff must wait until AFTER the dissertation.
I've always hear about people who "take stock" of what is going on in their life, but I'd never done it. Now, I have and it feels good. It's hard to stick to my 3 priorities, well the husband part isn't because he's been #1 since the day I met him! In fact, I even went so far as to write down my priorities on a post-it affixed to my closet door. Each morning and night I'm reminded. It's helping, but doesn't make it easy. It's definitely a process, but I just have to push through and be disciplined.
I'd love to hear from you - Have you ever "taken stock" of your life? Do you know what your 3 priorities are?
